Kahit henyo ay may sablay din: Lesson mula sa buhay may asawa ni Albert Einstein

"ANG PAG AASAWA AY HINDI PARANG KANIN NA ISUSUBO AT KAPAG NAPASO AY ILULUWA". Yan ay original na kasabihang Pinoy na namana pa natin sa mga ninuno natin. Pero tingin ko ay hindi ito masyadong uso sa Germany kase kahit mismong ang isa sa pinaka-henyo sa kasaysayan ay epic fail sa bagay na to. Basahin ang kwento.

11 taon ding nagsama si Einstein at ang una nyang asawa na si Mileva bago sila nagdivorce. Naghiwalay sila kase ika-nga ng kusinero ay "lumamig ang sabaw" at lumamlam ang pagiging romantiko ni Einstein sa asawa niya. Tinry nila isalba ang marriage at para na rin sa mga anak nila at dahil feeling "poging-pogi" ang ating bida, gumawa sya ng listahan ng mga bagay na dapat gawin ni Mileva para magpatuloy pa ang pagsasama nila kahit wala nang pagmamahalan na nagaganap. Heto ang listahan sa wikang Taglish.

A. Siguraduhin mo lang na:

1. malinis at maayos ang mga damit ko pati na ang mga labahin
2. dapat regular mo kong hahatiran ng pagkain sa kwarto ko tatlong beses isang araw
3. panatilihing malinis ang kwarto ko (tulugan at study room) at walang gagamit ng desk ko maliban saken.

B. Isantabi na natin ang mga personal attachments natin dahil di naman yun importante sa social life natin. Lalo nang hindi pwede na:

1. magkatabi pa tayo sa pag-upo habang nasa bahay
2. makasama ka pa sa mga lakad ko

C. Susundin mo ang mga nabanggit sa kasalukuyang set-up ng relasyon natin na to:

1. wala nang kasweetan o kahit anupamang lambingan na mamamagitan sa atin
2. pag sinabi kong ayoko makipag-usap, manahimik ka lang
3. pag sinabi kong gusto ko mapag-isa sa kwarto, iwanan mo na agad ako at wag ka na umangal

D. Wag na wag mo kong mamaliitin o memenusin sa harap ng mga anak natin kahit sa paraang parinig o pag-aattitude.

"E di wow!" sabi ni Mileva. Pero sinunod pa rin nya ang kundisyon na to ni Einstein na masyadong direct to the point at sabi nga ng kapitbahay ko e "kakapapalan ng mukha". Pero siguro sabi ni Mileva: ano naman e para naman yun sa mga anak nila. Tsaka si Einstein na ang asawa mo choosy ka pa? Tsaka siguro feeling ni Mileva hindi lang naman sya ang tanga sa mundo na mag-sstay sa asawa para matawag lang na buo ang pamilya. Katunayan marami syang makakachika at makakajamming dito sa Pinas kung nagawi lang sya dito nung mga panahon na yun at actually meron pa rin ngayong 21st century yung mga tulad nya. Anyway, ilang buwan din ang lumipas at natauhan din yata si Ate kase sayang naman at naturingan din syang physicist kung di nya gagamitin ang utak nya, iniwan nya si Einstein sa Berlin at tinangay nya ang mga anak nila. Tsk, tsk..

Hindi ko na idedetalye kung bakit nagkaganito si Einstein sa asawa nya dahil iiwanan ko na yang topic na yan sa inyo para pagtsimisan. Ang totoo kase, ang pag-ibig ay hindi makakayang iproseso ng utak lamang dahil para saan pa at may puso di ba? Nangyari na itong si Mileva ay nag-iisang klasmeyt na babae ni Einstein at dahil laging busy sa pag-iisip, hindi na nag-effort na tumingin tingin pa sa paligid at sinunggaban agad si Ate. Ito naman si Ate, komo henyo nga at astig pa mag-play ng violin, sinagot agad si Einstein kahit laging magulo ang buhok. E nung nag-iisip ng theory of relativity si Einstein masyado syang busy at ang function ng puso para sa kanya ay magpump lang ng blood. Di naman sya fully walang puso talaga kase di naman nya kakalabanin ang dating kumpare nyang si Fritz Haber na umimbento ng poison gas nung World War 1 dahil trip lang nya. May concern kase sya hindi lang sa libong sundalo na namatay dun kundi pati na rin sa mga sibilyan at meaning, nakakaramdam din sya ng love. Anyway, sana lang nagpakatotoo na lang si Einstein kase kawawa naman si Ate Mileva. Biruin mo, sa Letter C, number 3 ng listahan ng kundisyon nya, "pagkatapos nila mag-sex" at kelangan na bumalik ng henyo sa malalimang pag-iisip, itataboy na lang nya asawa nya? Wala man lang kahit konting dirty talk or kindatan or kagat labi? Extreme di ba? Tsaka nakahanap siya ng maid na nagkataong nanay din ng mga anak nya. Astig. Ang sarap maging henyo, instant pogi at sikat.

Sa kabila nang kinahatnan ng marriage life na to ni Einstein, pwede mo pa rin sabihin na justified nya kung bakit ganito ang nangyari and therefore pwede nyang sabihin na hindi ito epic fail. Pero gusto kung iparating sa sambayanang maginoong Pinoy na hindi mo kailangang gawin ito sa isang babae na pinangakuan mong mamahalin at pakikisamahan mo till the end. Dati ko pang kinukwestiyon kung bakit walang divorce system dito sa Pinas para madali lang sana ang hiwalayan pero siguro narealize na rin ng mga mambabatas natin na ang pagpapakasal ay hindi tulad ng facebook status na pwede mong palitan agad pag nagkawalaan na. Paalala lang sa mga katropa ko ha, tayo ay may puso din at hindi lang puson ang meron tayo. Nagpapakasal tayo dahil mahal natin ang babae hindi dahil nakahanap lang tayo nang mag-aasikaso at mag-eentertain satin. Oo, may posibilidad na "lumamig ang sabaw" anytime soon pero iba ang machong Pinoy. Ang totoong Pinoy lover ay parang klima sa Pinas, oo may taglamig pero babalik din yan sa tag-init. At pag sinabing tag-init, mainit na mainit. Wheww... hanggang dito na lang dahil tumatagaktak na pawis ko. Happy summer 2015! :)

So you wanna go to college?

This is just my opinion and I'm not going to present any astounding facts to support it coz this thing has been going into my mind for a decade now and ofcourse everyone is entitled for his/her own opinion.

Today, young people flock from different walks of life trying to seek a brighter future through higher education in the form of lottery. Yes, it kinda look like a lottery for me simply because these young people don't even know where to go, what they want and the worst part? They don't even know the answers to the basic "why's" of life. I mean ask them why they're there, why they exist, and you'll get nothing but a smile just like that of facebook emoticon that they post or send out to their chatmates when they ran out of words to say. What I'm saying is, It looks like this generation can't seem to deal with this 21st century and the modernization manipulates them instead of them manipulate this digital age.This fact is directly observable in a third world countires like Philippines and this is not taking us to somewhere better if we are talking about the future.

In selecting college course, rarely that I encounter young people who speak about the exact thing that they want to their life. Some of them are so honest that they humiliate themselves for having no idea of what they want to be while some of them even boast their plans to their lives that are obviously just a product of other people's ideas primarily their parents'. Yes, I mentioned parents. Large number of upcoming college students have their courses picked by no one but their parents. I think this is not just applicable for this generation as few have this same problem in the past but why should this thing has to go on? Is it because you really can't figure out yet what you want or you just don't really care?

I see a lot of young people busy playing online games, talking about latest trends and fooling themselves with all this flirtings and relationship stuff. Im not a conservative person but among all things that you can be busy with, why waste your time finding an intimate partner like you are entitled to do this together with other stuff while you are 17? And why would you spend tons of your time playing COC etc. when the rest of the world are struggling on how to make both ends meet?  Maybe you have so much means to waste time and resources because you happened to be a lucky bastard sucking up your parent's hard earned money but would you be a little considerate and start moving your ass to do something productive or meaningful? Now having these things that are obviously and unimaginably rampant these days, how would you expect a young people decide and make directions for themselves?

I'm not gonna mention any specific courses that young people are crazy about these days coz its really obvious what basically are they thinking right now. Its obvious what really are their priorities and sad to say, education is not one of them. They say that you go into college not to be smarter or brighter but only to get title so you can apply to what you think is higher or at least decent paying job  once you graduate. Isn't it a misconception about taking a higher education? In the Philippines, you can hear both parents and children agreeing that in order to get a job, you dont even need to graduate, just spend couple of years in college and you'll land a job somewhere. You know what I'm talking about. Really? Is that how things should go? Then at the end of the day, households will blame the government for not providing enough means for quality education. Yes, we blame the government often for our misseries but have we tried to make things better from our end? From a desperate point of view when it comes to higher education, I dont think that we have a full right to blame institutions why we fail after getting a college degree.

In some countries, they have rich resources of labor force that came from a balance proportion of skilled workers especialized on different fields. In the Philippines what do we have the most? Nurses, ITs, engineers etc.? Does this country even maximize the use of those mentioned overlapping population of proffesionals when only half of them ended up on where they are suppose to go? My point now here is, why keep pushing yourself to something that you obviously just took for granted then after a while of wasting time acquiring it, you'll either regret or blame things on why you ended up to be such a loser?

On a philosophical point of view, I don't think that we have to take higher education to just earn money consequently. We take higher education to be a better person. We take higher education so we can spend the rest of our lives with the path that we have chosen. We desire to have that diploma on our hands to establish contentment not solely by means of money but also by principle. Can you even speak of principle after you graduated from something that later you realized is not something that you want?

Finally, I say to the youth who are attempting to go to college this year, choose a course that best fit your interest and not something that you just learned from your parents or friends. Otherwise, take sometime to think about it. You don't necessarily need to enroll to college right away after highschool just to see yourself doing something that you don't like and regret later on. Take sometime and think over about things. You don't need to be on a rush if you haven't made up your mind yet. Be someone useful not just for yourself, not just for your family but also to the community. Stop being a bullshit and start planning for your life.